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Birth Control: How to Have the Best Birth Experience

Recently I came across an article about “control” that I think is really relevant to the way that we approach birth in the present highly medicalised system. We are accustomed to handing over control to our doctors and to the hospital with the (often misguided) notion that they will make the best decision for us.

Anyone who has met me knows that my mantra is that: “Women need to take responsibility for their birth.”

What does that actually mean and what does it have to do with control? If you are pregnant and reading this then I suggest that you take some time to think about a few questions related to the way that you view your pregnancy, your choice of care provider and the way that you are preparing for your birth.

Who (if anyone) is in control throughout the birth process?

Birth is personal. You are the only one who can give birth to your baby. Sure, you will be in the hospital, under the care of your chosen doctor and the staff midwife and nurses but you will be the one who is experiencing labor and who has ultimate control over what is happening.

Any decisions that need to be made at any time should be done as a team. A discussion between yourself, your husband and your doctor – with the best outcome for all is the best possible solution.

How much control can we maintain?

You control your mind. Your mind controls your body. You control your fear (or your ability to confront or move beyond fear). You control how you experience the intensity of the birth experience.

Is letting go a necessary part of the process?

Yes, absolutely. There are certain things that are out of our control. Things like the position of the baby, how long labor may take and certain situations that may arise necessitating a change of plan. Let go of what you cannot control. Hold on to what you can. You can control your attitude, your ability to be flexible in the face of unexpected circumstances and staying connected to your baby, your body and the process of giving birth. You can control your mind, your thoughts, your beliefs and your expectations.

How is the birth experience affected by our attitudes toward authority and autonomy?

Do you blindly agree to everything your doctor suggests? Do you question decisions and routine procedures and how (or if) they relate to you and your pregnancy? Do you feel comfortable discussing your fears and expectations with your doctor? Would you consider changing doctor or even hospital if you felt that having had several discussions, your wishes are not being respected?

Here is a little acronym that I use in my birth preparation classes to help parents form a framework for opening discussions with their care providers. Think BRAT – Benefits, Risks, Alternatives, Timing

Benefits: What is the problem we are trying to prevent or to fix? Will this procedure fix the problem? If not, what would we do next?

Risks: What are the possible risks or side effects?

Alternatives: What are the possible alternatives? What would happen if we did nothing?

Timing: Is the situation urgent, or is it possible to wait?

This is a great way to discuss things with your doctor so that you can prepare for and have a no fault, no blame – birth. If you confidently participate in all the decisions made during your labor and delivery – even those that were not in your birth plan – you are likely to look upon your birth with no blame and no regrets.

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About the Author

Karen Wilmot is a Midwife, Yoga Instructor, Birth and Lactation Consultant. In August 2009, she started a community based service offering birth preparation classes, home and hospital visits and support throughout pregnancy, birth and beyond.

Learn more: www.pregnantinoman.com

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